A for Alike #AToZChallenge

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  1. Bellybytes says:

    Feminism goes out the window when a 28 year old purser refuses to help you put your bag up in the overhead bin just because you are a 60 year old woman. “Do it yourself” I was told and I realised feminism had won us a losing battle
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  2. I totally agree with you Parul. Comparison is not between them. Men and women should be accepted as individuals.

  3. Jaibala Rao says:

    Okay I am just going to sit next to Sreesha and applaud this post. I get so pissed when this kind of comparison is made Parul. I get a lot of she is like S’s father too, and it irritates me, because that is not what equality is about. So, thank you for saying this – Equality is not about comparing one with the other.
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  4. jayanthi says:

    True .. women aretyring to run a man’s race by the standards set by men. We will only tire out. Need to get more authentic and set our own milestones.

  5. The sad part is that they genuinely believe that the comment puts them in good light. And the idea that they have done a favour to the daughter by thinking of her as a son! God knows how long we will take to get rid of this!

  6. This is a message that is needed in so many places in our world right now. I’m glad you’re adding your voice as we all strive for equality for everyone everywhere.

  7. I’m especially annoyed that the favorable traits (the ones to be aspired to) are all coded as masculine (strength, leadership, logic), where as if a man displays a trait coded as “feminine,” it’s seen as a failing (sensitivity, softness, creativity). We’re all complex beings outside of our gender, and should all be treated with equal respect and equal rights. Nice job!
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  8. I have a very complicated relationship with gender, and I agree – there is so little to gain in comparisons. I’ve especially noticed that those qualities that are held in high regard are always coded as masculine – as though women are incapable of being logical, or strong, or confident, etc. Men, women, and everyone beyond or in-between should be treated as individuals who are equally deserving of rights and respect.
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  9. This is so very true!
    I was raised in a different way, a more Lenni-Lenape way. So leaving that, going out into the world where people didn’t treat each other as equals, blew my mind. The first time I heard an adult call a group of male students “ladies” I was… I was so confused. And the explanation that it was supposed to be a motivating insult made no sense to me whatsoever. I ended up with a week of detention.
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  10. Love your theme for the A to Z Challenge and the statement your post today makes! Keep it up!

  11. I love it! This is so true, and something I have been saying for years. Love the George Carlin quote too. I may not have agreed with everything the man said, but he definitely had his moments. πŸ˜€

    Here is the link to my post for the #AtoZChallenge, my theme will become apparent after a few days (I’m kind of hoping people figure it out on their own…)

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  12. Sampada says:

    So true and how relatable!! I wonder when a wonan’s strength is considered her own trait snd not like a man!

    Powerful thought Parul. A great start to the challenge!!
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  13. L. Moon says:

    So true. Women are equal and sadly are not always treated as such. A great reminder.
    Glad you are doing another A to Z challenge.

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  14. Amrita says:

    Differences are to be celebrated .So your thoughts on men are men and women will be women is perfect.We are a lot alike and a little diferent .

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  15. This is a powerful lesson to teach our children. I am you. You are me. Together.

  16. Debbie D. says:

    This is so true, Parul! Those first three sentences (and I’m sure I have uttered them about myself, even) really does denigrate women, when you think about it. Thanks for pointing it out!
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  17. Toni says:

    You are a wise and perceptive human. Excellent post!

  18. Susan Taylor says:

    It definitely starts with each one of us!

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  19. Sreesha says:

    This is so important. I’m clapping just reading this. It’s important that more people understood this.
    Thanks for this, Parul!
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  20. Deepa says:

    Loved it Parul. we need to stop discriminating on the basis of gender. Sadly, people do not understand it and compare us on the basis of works, lifestyle etc. Loved the quote in the end.
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  21. Anonymous says:

    Completely agree with you. We don’t need to be compared to men. We are unique in our own way.

  22. zainab says:

    Absolutely delightful thought! πŸ™‚

  23. Reading the first three sentences, I felt my hackles rise. By the end, I was nodding along – amen to all that! Feminism isn’t about turning women INTO men; it’s about equal rights and opportunities to pursue our dreams, whether they are the same or different, in our own ways. It’s about access to the playing field and achieving our objectives – not necessarily in exactly the same ways. We women bring unique strengths to the table, as do men. Why are there “boy” or “girl” colors, toys, professions, sports? These things have nothing to do with gender. Have you ever seen this video? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs Pretty powerful.
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  24. Oh I agree wholeheartedly. This is such a common line of thought. Why try to compare and equate two people? They’re so very different and so special in their own ways.
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  25. Oh yes! I can’t stand the comparisons – both ways.

  26. YES! This…so very important! I think there is quote about something to do with women where it’s about being like a man and I hate that quote so much because no, we are not like men. We are women and we deserve to be treated equally for what we do. We are not bold like men. We are bold. We are not confident like men. We are confident. Love this post Parul! As always, you speak to me and fire up all the things I’m passionate about! πŸ˜€
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  27. Sheethal says:

    My A post is also on the similar lines. Let women be women and men be men. Why so much tags?
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  28. Geets says:

    When I began reading the first few lines of the quote, I knew there would be more than that and there.. I found it! I knew you would be against women being compared to men to judge how good they are! And I totally agree with you!

    Cheers

  29. Rajlakshmi says:

    oh yes, this comparison was and is still so common. True, we need to change the benchmark… the thought of equality should subconsciously come in your mind. Loved that quote.
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  30. Shalini says:

    Agree with you completely! Here’s to equality! πŸ™‚
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  31. Miss Andi says:

    Oh I hear you, and I love the way gender prejudice is improving in our time. It’s slow of course but it’s a progress nonetheless and I’m grateful for that.

  32. There are no benchmarks, except our own capabilities. Comparing women with men is wrong in so many ways.
    I liked the bluntness of the quote you mentioned, Parul. It’s so apt!

  33. upasna says:

    When God has made us different with different capabilities and personality traits, then why we loose our own essence just to be like Men.

  34. Agree…This is one reason I am thankful to my parents, esp. dad. He never brought us up ‘like’ a son, or ‘like’ a daughter, He brought us up like independent individuals.
    Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

  35. An@mi says:

    Totally agreed. I don’t understand why there’s even the need for comparison. Everyone have their own identity and importance. We just need to respect that and then see the results.

  36. Very well put. Here’s to equality. Happy AtoZ!
    Tasha
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  37. Shilpa Garg says:

    Agree with you completely!! Yes, Men are from earth, women are from earth and it’s time we stop this comparison for good!

  38. This needs to be drummed into the heads of every parent of this generation. We cannot afford to lose another generation to stereotypes.
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  39. Vidya Sury says:

    So true. Who wants to walk in a shadow? Yet people are content to accept that it is ok to be compared to someone, and even feel proud about it on occasion! Hugs! Love your theme!
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  40. Suzy says:

    So true. Women are women and men are men and we all think and do things differently and the differences make life interesting. Nice start Parul
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  41. Kaddu says:

    πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€
    So true. We need to do away with gender stereotyping completely.

    Happy AtoZing!
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  42. I agree with you! Why set a benchmark? Men and women need to be accepted the way they are. Loved how you have conveyed the message in so few words.

  43. Let a man be a man and a woman who she is. … So true parul… And this is called acceptance which we humans seldom do. We constantly judge on the basic of benchmarks we or society sets. Wondering when we would get beyond this

  44. Radhika says:

    Very well said Parul. Men and women don’t like comparison. Each is endowed with unique traits which we should learn to respect.

  45. Trust you to say it the best. If we can normalise the situation instead of outraging, as is the norm these days, I think we’d be all better off.
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  46. Parul you have knack of saying a lot in very few words. This comparison is not only the truth but also mental conditioning.
    Mayuri
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  47. Natasha says:

    Men are from earth, women are from earth. Oh Yes!!! Parul that’s a great post. And I so believe in it.

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  48. So true Parul. Sometimes it gets on my nerve when people compare a successful woman to a man. Why, oh why? Women are equally, if not more, capable! Great start to the challenge Parul.
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  49. Shalini says:

    Awesome thoughts to begin my day with. Yes pls let a woman be a woman. And we women also need to be ourselves n not get into the competitive mode on our own too, to prove a pointless point. πŸ™„
    Great post to start the challenge Parul- I will stay tuned for more.

  50. Totally agree – It annoys me that successful women are compared to men and it annoys me equally when “like a girl” is used an insult!
    Love the quote at the end
    Debbie
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  51. Manisha says:

    People have distinct traits to offer and those traits make them special.

    Brilliant quote!

  52. Agree. That quote totally sums it up.

    Here from the A-Z and liked your theme and the post. All the best for the challenge,
    Nilanjana.
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  53. Astrid says:

    This is great. I didn’t know what theme you chose for this year’s A to Z, but your letter A post ties in nicely with your previous years’ themes.
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  54. So agree! Comparisons can be lethal. Individuals do it to themselves, even if subconsciously, often enough. Don’t need the added opinions of others.

    Good luck with the challenge!
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  55. Arlee Bird says:

    Good commentary for our times.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

  56. Chandni says:

    Hey Parul, Another theme this year that I can relate to. I like the way you’ve completely done away with the debate by normalizing the issue. Men and Women are the same and that quote in the end nails it.
    Happy Blogging πŸ™‚

  57. Denise says:

    Well said. I was asked in my last job to take a pay cut because I had a husband who could support me. Maybe someday that thinking will disappear.

  58. JazzFeathers says:

    Very well said. I really don’t like it when a woman is compared to a man, as if she wouldn’t have qualities of her own. We all have something beautiful to offer to others. This is what shoudl count.

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  59. Vinay Leo R. says:

    I agree. That “like a” tag gets annoying at times. Even when men are compared to men. Each are their own special. πŸ™‚ Let them find their own benchmarks and goals, instead of setting on arbitrarily. Who knows, they might be setting one that they feel worthy of them. πŸ˜€
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  60. Namratha says:

    Makes perfect sense even in the middle of the night! Yes, we should be treated as equal and we are not alike:)

  61. My Era says:

    Totally agree, Parul. Women don’t need to be compared to men to state how far they’ve come or where they belong. They are human beings just like men and when talking about them we need to be more empathetic of this fact.
    Loved the quote <3
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