F for Find yourself #AtoZChallenge
“I got a job. I am so happy.”
“Marriage is on the cards. He lives in the US and he is fond of traveling. My life is set.”
“I keep a track of everything he does. I am possessive like that.”
More than men, it is women who find it hard to find themselves. When I think of girls in small Indian cities, they grow up dreaming of a wedding and the happily ever after. They are taught to find happiness in making their husband’s family happy. They live up to the expectations in most cases and that they think is happiness.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s not about choices but letting go your choices because of someone or something else. That could be boyfriend, husband, parents, children or a relocation.
I know of many women who loved doing so many unique things at some point in time but never pursued any. Either time came in between or responsibilities. Then they never pursued anything. Their life revolved around managing their home or being a working home maker.
Men or women need to find that one thing that gives them the purpose in life. Something that defines them. It could be community work, baking, cycling, running, painting, writing or counselling. One thing. Where you earn your daily bread from is just a part of your life not your purpose. So stop thinking that a marriage, a job or having children is the end of the chase. Start believing that there is something more important to your existence. And that my friend, will help you find yourself.
I am participating in the A To Z Challenge for the third time this year and I am penning Stories from everyday life.