Last week I was busy with some yarn and learning crochet. More about that experience later but while handling yarn, I learnt an important lesson.
The yarn I had was all tangled with no beginning or end in sight. I had a partner who tried to fix up the mess by shaking it up. It seemed to work. She was able to make a small ball and kept it rolling until she hit a dead-end. That’s where the tangled yarn got even more hard to put in order. Both of us realised soon that it was not the right approach. We went back to the basics, a few loops to cross over here and there and things started to fall into place. We had to tie a few knots and work as a team but it wasn’t as hard as that initial roadblock we had seen earlier.
Relating it to life, don’t you think when things get complicated, we shake them up? We dig into whys and hows. We want to know it all before even trying to fix what’s wrong. Just like we did with that yarn. Digging deeper into life’s issues feels like we are solving them but in reality that just a temporary phase. It feels as if things are moving. However, what happens is just that a bigger mess is being created somewhere else. When you reach that part, it’s even hard to sort out.
I learnt my lesson that day both with the activity I took up and the life situation that came up soon. Communicate, open up and trust but don’t shake things up. Life is too short to make assumptions and draw conclusions from those. Life is about understanding what’s unsaid. Many times what we see is not the truth and hearing the voice within is possible only with an open mind. So go ahead, open it up and get that yarn of life in order.
Getting back to writing after a week and could not stop sharing a life lesson. A tad too long for MicroblogMondays this time. Tagging to #MondayMusings as well.
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Sigh… this so applies to me. At times, I look back at certain aspects of my life and feel I have messed it up big time and there’s no coming back… at other times, the old tendency to hope resurfaces and i slowly try to untangle my way out of it logically… its rare, but it happens 🙂
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Slowly untangling things is better I guess. Roshan, we all want to undo things but will then things remain as they are now? Each situation gives us some learnings. Isn’t it?
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I liked this analogy, Parul!
I agree, life can become a tangled mess at times, and the only way to untangle it is to get to the root cause, not just shake it up.
Little things, like the yarn, can teach us such valuable lessons!
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Yes, Shilpa. Thank you for saying that.
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That’s an excellent analogy, Parul! Time to get my yarn skeins in order! 🙂
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Thank you, Traci 🙂
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Good one, Parul …. I so agree – We can for sure make things all too messy… talking … and then it’s being received differently….I enjoyed this read:-)
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Thanks, Eli 🙂
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Life teaches us lessons in the strangest ways….I love untangling knots in yarn, chains etc and am always called to untangle things…
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Very cool. It could also mean that you are a problem solver.
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The life lessons that mundane activities teach us. You are right about how we approach conflicts. Sometimes we feel down and at others optimistic.
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Mundane activities have a lot of stories. I agree. Thanks, Rachna.
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As we call it Root Cause Analysis 🙂 … Loved your train of thoughts – How yarn made you think about life and finding solutions to our problems. Digging deeper with an open mind does help… once in a while it’s good to retrospect on how far we have come, how and why.
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Yes, RCA it is 🙂 thank you, Raji.
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nice one . I like these simpler ones
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Thank you!
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I liked the analogy. Often we keep delving into the reasons why things and relationships go sour and non-workable whereas the requirement is to act on sorting out. By the way, I used to love untangling yarn and make balls out of them as a kid 🙂
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I have seen Mum do that and I also learnt knitting to some extent. Thanks, Anamika.
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Wow you are getting to learn the crochet? Awesome… envy you…
Yeah our life sometimes gets entangled with issues and concerns. And we sure complicate it by delving deeper into it. Maybe as you say I should shake things up relax, get to the root cause maybe the tangles would vanish away… So true Parul
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Thank you, Ramya!
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That’s such sane advice. Isn’t it strange where we can find life-lessons provided we are ready to look for them? A sweet post Parul.
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That sure is a wise advice and knowing you, I saw that coming 🙂
Great lesson for lifetime!
Cheers
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Thank you Geetika! Kind of you to say that.
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Communication is the key to resolving most issues. By examining something from all possible angles in our own head, we only muddle things further. Excellent post!
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It’s quite a tricky but creative process. I love the analogy in the end. It’s so powerful. A bit like our lives, unpredictable, messy and sinfully beautiful.
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This was a post that came exactly at the right moment for me. You’re right, and I’m going to sit back and move carefully and hopefully untangle things without making a knottier mess.
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I agree about opening up and not making assumptions! Also, very cool that you’re learning to crochet! I’d like to do that one of these days.
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Excellent analogy! Communication is so important, and it’s something I have to work on every day.
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Love the way you think Parul!
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Thanks, Harmony 🙂
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There are so many people who don’t understand this basic concept. I mean, it’s tougher to assume, than it is to accept things the way they are and figure out a solution! A must share. Till the whole world understands this!
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Sweet of you. Thank you, Mithila!
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Simple and effective, it is often the basics that most of us get wrong!
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True that!
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Very nicely put, Parul. Your blog is lovely.
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Thank you, Apeksha! Welcome and thank you for the follow 🙂
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I love this! Life is a lot like a tangled skein of yarn sometimes!
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Whatever you have written and experienced is absolutely correct .my mother used to say ” jo uljhey huy wool ko suljha lega bina today aur knot ke wo jeevan mai koi bhi problem solve kar lega ”
And I am proud of you …
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And I’m proud of you! ♥️
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