N for Name #AtoZChallenge
I took my husband’s last name after marriage. I wasn’t asked or forced. His last name went well with my first name. Let’s just say I liked the ring of it and went ahead. I know even if I hadn’t, he or his family wouldn’t have bothered.
Choosing between a married name or a maiden name is not a new thing. Different cultures have different ways of looking at this topic, people have different views on whether this supports patriarchy or not, so on and so forth. None of this is what I am thinking right now.
I would like to take your focus towards women who are ‘asked’ to change their first names after marriage. Whether the reason is astrology or culture, changing the first name is something that makes me think more than just a last name change.
A person’s name is her identity for say 26 years and then as soon as the marriage is settled, a new name is given to her. Along with a new life and relationships around her, she is now expected to have with a new name. A name that her parents or siblings will never get used to.
I don’t know how it must feel. I am sure it is not easy. Most women accept this with a pinch of salt but if given a chance most would like to retain their first names.
We say ‘what’s in a name?’ or ‘a rose by any other name would smell as sweet’ but it is easier said than done. Isn’t it?
Have you heard of changing first names after wedding? Can you help me understand why is this done? Do you know somebody whose maiden name was something else?
I am participating in the A To Z Challenge for the third time this year and I am penning Stories from everyday life.