R for Rapist
No woman ever invites a rape and it’s never her fault. It is the man who cannot control his sexual urges and forces himself on a woman. Rape is such a heinous crime that it scars the soul of a woman and I don’t even have any words to describe what she goes through mentally and physically. Yet, it’s women who lead a life of shame. The words used for survivors, the attacks to malign their upbringing or demeanor, the post trauma gets too much to handle.
“My name is Suzette Jordan and I don’t want to be known any longer as the victim of Calcutta’s Park Street rape,” – As told to Rupa Jha in June 2013
Suzette was tired of leading a life of shame and why she should have led a life like that? What happened to her was not her fault. But she had to move houses, avoid people and live a life of fear till the time she was alive.
“Society makes you feel cheap. I chose not to feel like a victim. I am not a victim. I am a survivor. I speak about it with a lot of pride, because I am proud of what I have become today. I have not done a mistake. I don’t want my face to be blurred. I am not to be ashamed for. The guys that have done it should be hiding their faces and they should be blurring their faces” – Dr.Sunitha Krishnan
Sunitha was gang raped when she was 15-year-old. She did not let that stop her from helping other women in need. She is the co-founder of an organization that has till date rescued and rehabilitated more that 12,000 survivors of sex trafficking. Prajwala continues to be the world’s largest anti-trafficking shelter for women. Had she felt shame in all that happened to her and never come out, she would not have been able to help so many women.
We need to detach rape and honor. The longer we keep on using them together and associate rape with an act of bringing dishonor, the victims will continue to lead a life of shame and will be forced to hide themselves. The above picture captures the essence of this post –“Shame the Rapist”. Bring the rapist to light, shame him for his act and let him lead a life that is secluded and painful. Isn’t it dual torture when a woman is raped and then shamed throughout her life for all that happened to her?
My message today is to not feel sorry for one who was raped. Help her get back to living life with dignity. Shame the rapist and do not let him be at peace. Whatever may be the case, remember, it’s never the woman’s fault.
I am blogging from A to Z during April (#417 on the list) and the theme I have chosen is set on women. Some of the posts will be here for you to know and some will be to reflect and accept. Share your thoughts and let me know how things are going. There is always a room for improvement.