X for Xcuse
I will write about my experience and not pick up another stereotype but I know many women who keep thinking of excuses so that they don’t hurt family/friends/peers when they say No to someone. Like me, you would have met women in your lives who are all in when ever asked out for a round of shopping, partying, etc.
Coming along for the wedding reception? Sure, let’s go!
Want to go parting? Sure, I am game!
Want to go shopping? Sure, let’s go!
What about that Bangkok trip? Well, I would worry about my Finances but let me check and get back to you.
Want to come for that movie? Oh yes, I love watching movies.
I have met very few women who dare to say NO. And you know what? It’s about that personal choice. While you may have time in hand but there are priorities that are hard to say ‘No’ to. But women do that time and again. They don’t hesitate to give up on what they personally want for the sake of others. For the sake of friends, let go of that personal choice; for the sake of family, let go of that choice to be with friends, and so on. It doesn’t stop anywhere. Then one day, you become a person who in order to please others becomes a person who cannot relate to anymore.
How far is it fair? Is there is a fine balance? Is there a way to not throw any excuse and just say ‘you are in no mood’? You may not be able to keep everyone happy but who can do that anyway? It’s a big world and you can’t just keep on throwing excuses one after the other. There will be a day when you will have to say No without any excuse. So, begin now.
I don’t have an excuse for today. Well, what about you?
I am blogging from A to Z during April (#404 on the list) and the theme I have chosen is set on women. Some of the posts will be here for you to know and some will be to reflect and accept. Share your thoughts and let me know how things are going. There is always a room for improvement.