X for Xs and dots #AtoZChallenge
Last week I was in a conversation with a few people and the topic was around managing people – peers and seniors. While I am no expert when practicing for myself, I do have a fair idea on how to manage.
I have named this understanding and way of handling – ‘crosses and dots’.
Of all people you meet at work or in a personal setting – they can either be crossed off your list or dotted.
Crosses refer to not caring about what people say and think of you. So when you cross a person, you are letting go the person and the thoughts they come to you with. Dots, on the other hand, mean fine-tuning your approach to deal with people or tailoring the message that you intend to convey.
Why is that important?
It is because that person is important. Either by designation, position or there is some value that you see in the relationship and you can’t just let it fade away.
Let’s take an example. You don’t get along with a person you work with. Think for yourself, if you can function without this individual and you have the support of your leadership to run the show on your own? If yes, cross the person off. However, if your work demands to partner with this person, you will have to deal with this. Now ‘dealing with’ usually brings a negative connotation. It’s also not the right way to handle knowing that you have to spend time and effort with this individual. So, tweak the way you work. Tailor your message. Find out what should be done to manage these work interactions in a healthy way. It could be a pat on the back, a joke that you crack to lighten the mood, make the other person feel valued, so on and so forth.
Does that make sense? Let me know.
I am participating in the A To Z Challenge for the third time this year and I am penning Stories from everyday life.