Z for ZNMD


If you are confused, no – that’s not a new word. That’s an acronym for “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” – You won’t get another life. Word by word, it is so true – all that we do each single day or at any moment knowing that this is the only life we have got, I feel we should strive to make it beautiful and the one that will be remembered.

Petty things, little misunderstandings, ego clashes, following orthodox customs and rituals will not lead us anywhere. Hurting others and being the cause of pain to them will never bring peace to self. All these things become superficial on the judgement day. When your life will flash in front of your eyes, there better be good memories, happy faces and hearty laughter. That is said to have lived a life when we had just one chance.

So what if you were rejected in love? So what if she doesn’t think of you as a life partner? Throwing Acid on her will not get you any closer to the person you loved so much. You will ruin her life and your own too. Rise above all that and let her lead her own life. Ten years from now, life will take you on a path where this anger and pain would seem little in front of your own happy and satisfied life. A lost love doesn’t mean a lost life.

When Boko Haram kidnapped so many school girls, they wanted the Nigerian government to release their detained members of the group. They just don’t have blood on their hands. They have it on their souls for ever. With so many parents, siblings and family members still waiting in pain for their girls to return, will they ever be able to sleep in peace? If only they had understood that no form education can ever ruin anything.

I feel proud of the women who take a stand for themselves and want to live life on their own terms. Change is inevitable and one day things will be different as they are today or were a decade back. It’s just a matter of time. Standing up for self-respect is of utmost importance. No one has the right to treat you badly and abuse you mentally or physically. Believe in yourself and never think you are alone. 

Take chances, experiment, talk about your self-worth and sit at the table. That leadership position should be yours if you deserve it and you would not even face any resistance but before complaining give your best shot. While you learn to say No and stop making any excuses for your own self, know that you are the most important person in your own life. Without being selfish – it’s I,Me,Myself.

While you will not be able be to control when others judge you, refraining from judging others will be a step forward. You were born a female and your mother held you dearly to let you go if she had that unwanted pressure from others. She may have been called unfortunate when she ran for life after marrying your dad, but know that you can survive the patriarchal society if you remain strong. If you just try and never give up.

You are an urban woman, marry by your choice, don’t let others objectify you and do not feel trapped between stereotypes that exist. You can be friends with your MIL and that does not mean you are lucky. That means you and your MIL know how to respect the relationship that you share. It is up to you.

Not everyone is lucky and many women are pushed to sex trade or shamed cos they were raped, but education enlightens everyone. Don’t just read but imbibe and add value to your being a woman. Live life as if there was no tomorrow and help those who want to bounce back. Make a difference.

If you are posed with the question about what would you do differently if given another chance at life, the answer should be nothing different from what you did in this one. And that would mean to say Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara.

I am blogging from A to Z during April (#398 on the list) and the theme I have chosen is set on women. Some of the posts will be here for you to know and some will be to reflect and accept. Share your thoughts and let me know how things are going. There is always a room for improvement.

38 Responses

  1. aseemrastogi2 says:

    You get a life only once and a life filled with delight, laughter, happiness, good deeds and the likes is a life well loved. Sadly a lot many people don’t think this way and have loved to run this world with hate and blood on their hands :(.

  2. Shalzzz says:

    Thant’s a brilliant post to end the #AtoZChallenge! Happy to have read your posts. Your theme was stupendous and I wish to keep reading your posts time and again. Happy blogging, Parul! 🙂

  3. Debbie D. says:

    Congratulations on finishing the A to Z Challenge, Parul! 🙂 Your posts have been a real education to me,regarding life in India for women. I sense the same type of positive uprising there now as we in North America experienced in the 1960s and 70s. May the women of India unite, be strong and break those shackles of patriarchal dominance!

  4. kokilagupta says:

    Indeed ZNMD .. a whole new meaning to these words – simple yet layered ..Nice post Parul. penned with that trademark realistic simplicity of yours which I adore 🙂

  5. Shilpa Garg says:

    Well said, Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, so live it to the fullest and make a difference!!

  6. What a post Parul.. You’ve covered almost everything (Revision of previous posts :p) and I loved the style. Your theme was no doubt incredible..!! And I loved reading everything that you wrote. Glad to have connected with you..


  7. Eli says:

    Oh wow Parul! Hats off, open the champagne! You did it! Its been an incredible April- and I have so enjoyed your theme. Your ZNMD is the icing on the cake – great powerful and inspiring wrap up! Keep writing:-)

  8. Vineeta Srivastava says:

    wow great post . this Z is the essence of all 25 posts . How beautifully u have summarized . congratulations for completing the challenge keep it up

  9. lifestyleproblog says:

    Very well said… loved the bit where you said “Ten years from now, life will take you on a path where this anger and pain would seem little in front of your own happy and satisfied life” if only we all realise this!

  10. shanayatales says:

    When your life will flash in front of your eyes, there better be good memories, happy faces and hearty laughter. – You summed it up beautifully. What a fantastic end to a wonderful series of posts by you. Have enjoyed reading each and every one of your posts in AtoZ. Congratulations on completing the challenge. 🙂

  11. Alex Hurst says:

    That’s a great saying. It has been a hard month here, difficult topics and soul-wrenching discussions, but I am glad to have found you this challenge. Hopefully you’ve spread awareness to new people, who will in turn spread it even further.

    Congratulations on finishing the challenge!

  12. Parul, truly ZDMD. I salute you for finishing in style. Your posts been incredible:)

  13. Zalka Csenge says:

    Beautifully said! Your theme was inspiring and inspired, and great to read. Thank you!

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  14. rajlakshmi says:

    Indeed Zindagi na milegi dobara. If only all those people could be reformed. Loved the powerful words and how you have linked it to all your posts 🙂 It was a pleasure reading your power packed posts through a to z challenge

  15. Suzy says:

    Sahi kaha aapne, yeh zindagi na milegi dobara. Make the best of life. Congratulations on completing this challenge.

  16. Lanise Brown says:

    I’m stopping by from the A to Z Challenge and just wanted to let you know about our party. The A to Z Reflections Linky List will open on Monday May 4th, and you’re more than welcome to join. 🙂

    And congrats on finishing the challenge. You won’t get another life is quite true. Thanks for sharing such a powerful post.

  17. jlennidorner says:

    J here, stopping by from the #atozchallenge – where I am part of Arlee’s A to Z Ambassador Team.
    Welcome to “Z-day”! (Time to watch the iZombie television series?)
    Hope to see you at the after party. I’m looking forward to when the Reflections Linky List opens on Monday, May 4th.
    I’ve followed your listed social media.
    I like this much better than “YOLO.”
    I love your stand on women’s rights. Everyone should be able to get an education. Men who fear an educated woman aren’t really men at all.
    -J @JLenniDorner

  18. A great Z post to end the challenge with Parul! Congrats and thanks for contributing such important and noteworthy topics related to women. 🙂 <3

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