happiness and food

It’s 6:30PM and a couple of hours more would lead to the end of this weekend. Clothes lying on the living room couch are yet to be folded, the bed spread needs to be changed, the refrigerator  needs an inspection, the washing machine is crying out loud to be run and of course today’s dinner needs some effort and work. Phew! Sometimes I feel that weekends are much more busier for working women than the working days. Cannot say about all, but when I ask my Mum she tells me that she gets Sundays off and that’s the day she has to get along with the domestic help and get the house cleaned, she need to look at her plants to trim and cut them, she needs to get her clothes ironed for the week (she is a teacher and gets up early to hit the ground running) and what not!

All this is makes me think where is the time for my own self? Weekdays are mad rush – as soon as the alarm goes off to the moment we finally crash on bed, 5 days and we all work like a machine. The routines are set, the time is fixed and the chores are sorted. For me the only difference that weekend makes is that alarm in the morning can be cancelled without the tension of getting late. Mentally, that rush also calms down cos the chores can take their time and still be done. However, every weekend brings its own set of tasks to be accomplished – groceries, preparation for all three/fours meals and multiple teas/coffees. Women cannot just drop things and no magic wand can get things done by itself.

Do you think our state would have been better with more than 24 hours in a day? Actually NO. It’s not about the hours in a day but the activities that  take up our time. Now what’s the solution if you really want some “me” time? The evil ME says – drop everything, let the house be a mess and carry on with what you really want to do – go to a spa, read a book, take a nap or start writing as I am doing right now. That’s evil ME! Ideally – what women should do is delegate and sit back to catch a breath. Reach out to your spouse for help, find someone who can come in over a weekend and take little burden off your shoulders and stop trying to do all at one go. Prioritize and accomplish what’s important and leave what can be left. Most of the times, we are our critiques and just in our own minds. Women do not realize how much stress and pressure they put on themselves to achieve everything at one go. I am not saying that women should not strive to achieve but my point is relax and give your mind and body some time to rejuvenate. Do not freak out if your maid does not turn up instead walk up to the next door and see if anyone else could fill her in for a day. Even better, step out and grab a bite. If the clothes are not washed, you could do it later too. Not that your wardrobe is robbed of clothes. Right? There are so many things that we could not do and still be happy and stress free. Do all that. For working mothers – please spend time with your child cos that is the only thing you can’t do while you are at work. For all your homemakers, you work the hardest. Have you even noticed how beautiful the spa’s decors are? Check that out and get a back massage. Pamper your self and smile, it’s a weekend!

Now that I spent 30 mins doing what I love to do (penning this post) – it’s time to do the unimportant things!

I am participating in National Blog Posting Month – NaBloPoMo, and this is Post #9, a pledge to write daily during November to hone my skills, challenge myself, and taking this blog to the next level. Wish me luck and share ideas that you would want to read 🙂