happiness and food

A lot has been said and written about love. Look up over the internet and our mighty Google will show up more than 150 million results in less than half a second on love quotes. But this does not simplify the complexity of love. Love is a feeling that is hard to define; it exists in all relationships and is something that people cannot live without. People also say that all’s fair in love, love is blind, true love exists, love changes people and what not! However, not every thing about love is true. Love is an awesome feeling and only a person in love knows how it feels when you wait for that special someone’s call or keep looking at the phone for a text message or how you dress up to impress or talk to put your best foot forward.  But is that what is love?

• She met him when she was 18 and he was 28. They got married when she was 24. Throughout her married life, he was suspicious of her. He loved her but never wanted her to interact with any other male. He felt that she was so young and beautiful that she will leave him.They had kids later and she was always loyal but he never trusted. A love without any trust, is that love?
• She loved him and wanted to marry him. He was smart and also liked her. But he was insecure and never spoke the truth. He lied about his ex, he lied about his work and his plans. He said he wanted to spend his life with her but never took a step forward. He never committed and then one day mentioned lack of trust and left her side. Was this love?
• She met someone who wanted her to accept him as he is but never accepted the way she was. He wanted her to respect his decisions but never reciprocated the same. She was giving throughout and did everything possible to keep the relationship intact but he asked her to leave her job and lose weight. Not for him but cos he was leaner than her and his parents wanted her to look slimmer than him. The love that wants you to change for someone else, is that love?
• This marriage was arranged for them. He was not as much educated as she was but their family’s financial statuses matched so it was the best alliance ever. He would beat her up every day and would never let her relax. He was too lazy to work and survived on his wife’s income and still hit her almost every day. She could never leave him cos she was scared about being a single mother to her two kids. She named this love for her husband. Was this love?
• She met him through their parents and after marriage everything changed. He would never support his wife on any little thing and even sought permission for the basic human needs. She left her home and her parents for him but his mother made her suffer to an extent that she passed away one day. While she was alive she never got a chance to file a legal complaint. She was hopeful that one day he will get better and love her back as much as she does. But this life was too short for her. Was this love?

Love is when you respect each other and have the independence of thoughts. Love is when you complement each other irrespective of how contrasting personalities you may have got. Love is about mutual respect that comes from behavior and every day communication. Love is about being yourself and accepting your partner the way (s)he is. Love is not as they show on TV or in books. Real life love is different and not anything as in any of the above real life stories. The warmth of love can be experienced by people who do not fake themselves to be who they are not. The warmth of love is about loving the inner beauty that a person has and letting go when that person does not seem right. Love is not always about emotions but there is also a lot of practicality in it. Love is not just a feeling, it’s also a thought.

This post is a response to Daily Post’s Photography 101 and today’s theme is Warmth. I am participating in National Blog Posting Month – NaBloPoMo, and this is Post #13, a pledge to write daily during November to hone my skills, challenge myself, and taking this blog to the next level. Wish me luck and share ideas that you would want to read!