Of love and rolling a dosa

Posted on by Parul Thakur
Of loving and rolling a dosa

The pan was hot and the oil had warmed up well. As I poured the dosa batter on the pan and started to roll it, within minutes one side was light brown and cooked and the other had just begun to fluff up and started to take the heat in.

Love is like rolling a dosa. While people are not perfect, a good and healthy relationship needs the right amount of heat and efforts to make it work. You need to let it flow on its own and not try to shape it the way you want. Love is freedom and it means having patience with each other. Like a perfect dosa needs time to cook, a healthy relationship needs time to bloom. Without the right amount of understanding and space, no relationship can thrive.

If I had heated the oil too much or spread out the batter more than necessary, the dosa would have turned out burnt and would not have been soft. Love is the same. Push people beyond limits and what you will get is a shallow connection. Demand too much and you will burn bridges.

Let your loved one breathe. Share responsibilities and make each other laugh.  It’s important to feel free in love. You may book a table and buy a bunch of red roses on Valentine’s Day but do you value what your partner needs. Do you respect them? A gift is good but do you have the gift of each other’s company?

 Writing for MicroblogMonday – 129 today and the picture I clicked while making my dosa is tagged to Mundane Monday#96. 

75 thoughts on “Of love and rolling a dosa”

  1. This is such a beautiful post, Parul. One that makes sense and one that you have so effortlessly weaved. You are right, love is a lot like this. We should have the space to be ourselves when in a relationship, the comfort to just be and that’s more important than gifts. Just loved this post 🙂

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  7. Love how you entwined dosa with the idea of love. So clever and creative. And so much truth to the comparison too. Love can be here one day, and the next day it might be gone because of a choice we made. Agree that we have to work hard at it and let each other be their own person. Love takes time to blossom. It could take one year. Two years, or more. Keeping that love alive is probably the more challenging thing 🙂

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  8. Oh wow, so beautifully put! I’ll never be able to look at a dosa the same way now 🙂

    Space is one of the most important things in a relationship. Look closely at the dosa and you’ll see the breathing spaces it is, no matter how close knit it looks 😉 . That’s how a relationship should be too.

    One of your best posts this, my dear. ❤

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  10. Thats a lot of profoundness in Dosa making Parul. As yummy and delicious as the Dosa you have made, your take on relationships and people was lovely too. Agree don’t cross barriers… And yes it takes a lot of patience.

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  25. Thanks for sharing this awesome post Parul. I loved the analogy. We are married for 4 years but this year is special as we both are transforming, caring for each other’s interests and giving each other space to grow. We will have DOSA today to celebrate. It took us long but now we are in forever.

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  28. Wow! What an unusual comparison, and so beautifully done! The last line is roaming in my head and won’t go for a long time, ‘Do you have the gift of each other’s company?’ This is really a question I keep asking myself day and night! And here I have it 🙂

    Loved it totally, Parul!

    Cheers

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  37. What a lovely way to explain love and the bond it shares. May you be poured with lots and lots of love along with all those Dosa you are cooking and eating. 😀Lovely post, Parul!

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