Of love and rolling a dosa

Of loving and rolling a dosa

The pan was hot and the oil had warmed up well. As I poured the dosa batter on the pan and started to roll it, within minutes one side was light brown and cooked and the other had just begun to fluff up and started to take the heat in.

Love is like rolling a dosa. While people are not perfect, a good and healthy relationship needs the right amount of heat and efforts to make it work. You need to let it flow on its own and not try to shape it the way you want. Love is freedom and it means having patience with each other. Like a perfect dosa needs time to cook, a healthy relationship needs time to bloom. Without the right amount of understanding and space, no relationship can thrive.

If I had heated the oil too much or spread out the batter more than necessary, the dosa would have turned out burnt and would not have been soft. Love is the same. Push people beyond limits and what you will get is a shallow connection. Demand too much and you will burn bridges.

Let your loved one breathe. Share responsibilities and make each other laugh.  It’s important to feel free in love. You may book a table and buy a bunch of red roses on Valentine’s Day but do you value what your partner needs. Do you respect them? A gift is good but do you have the gift of each other’s company?


 Writing for MicroblogMonday – 129 today and the picture I clicked while making my dosa is tagged to Mundane Monday#96

74 Responses

  1. Trablogger says:

    Relationship advice from making dosa! Only you can do that!!! 😉

  2. Vinitha says:

    What a lovely way to explain love and the bond it shares. May you be poured with lots and lots of love along with all those Dosa you are cooking and eating. 😀Lovely post, Parul!
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  3. This is a great analogy. Plus I love dosas too 🙂
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  4. Jess says:

    Such a beautiful analogy. Perfect post!

  5. Shilpa Garg says:

    Aha!! That’s beautiful comparison of my 2 favourite things!! And I will now be seeing Dosa in a new light ♥

  6. Sid says:

    Ah! Crispy, lovely dosa 🙂 And a great way to explain love
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  7. Shalini says:

    What a fab way to explain love, for food goes well with love. I agree with you, Parul. There is a fine balance in love. 🙂
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  8. Alok Singhal says:

    Gift of each other’s company is the best phrase I’ve ever heard.
    Materialistic things will anyway fade with time, love still stays strong!

  9. Ha Ha..Loved the post and the dosa pic.What a comparison!Nice one Upasna!

  10. Hmm these look tasty – I’ll have to look up the recipe. I love making roti, socca and other bread alternatives to mop up sauce or use as wraps…

  11. Geets says:

    Wow! What an unusual comparison, and so beautifully done! The last line is roaming in my head and won’t go for a long time, ‘Do you have the gift of each other’s company?’ This is really a question I keep asking myself day and night! And here I have it 🙂

    Loved it totally, Parul!

    Cheers

  12. Traci York says:

    Excellent point, Parul and after close to 30 years with my husband (almost 28 of those married), I completely agree with you. And now, I’m hungry! 🙂
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  13. arv! says:

    Beautifully crafted post, that details out love.

  14. upasna says:

    Thanks for sharing this awesome post Parul. I loved the analogy. We are married for 4 years but this year is special as we both are transforming, caring for each other’s interests and giving each other space to grow. We will have DOSA today to celebrate. It took us long but now we are in forever.

    • Parul Thakur says:

      How sweet of you to share that and you know what? I believe that relationships grow and change over years. It’s important to acknowledge that. Thanks for stopping by, Upasna.

  15. Loved this Parul . wishing you two a very happy valentines day. May the year be love filled

  16. Obsessivemom says:

    That’s an unusual analogy but it does make sense. Patience is the key to a good dosa as well as a good relationship, I’d say.

  17. Alka says:

    What a lovely analogy Parul. Loved it.

  18. Rachna says:

    Beautiful musing about love. You are so right — give each other space to breathe and thrive. And I loved the dosa analogy.

  19. That’s a lovely analogy 🙂 Except now I’m craving dosas!
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  20. Mel says:

    A lovely sentiment (but now you’ve made me hungry for dosas!)

  21. Anonymous says:

    A lovely sentiment (and now you’ve made me hungry for dosas).

  22. Mali says:

    Nicely said. But now I’m hungry!

  23. Shilpa says:

    It was nice reading this post . I m having dosa now and all it reminds me is ❤️.

  24. Yum! It’s been a long time since I’ve eaten one of these! Yes, nice statements about love, but you also made me hungry. 😀
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  25. Anonymous says:

    This is very romantic and a great message for Valentine’s Day!

  26. Vineeta says:

    Interesting …..

  27. Tina Basu says:

    How cute, Parul – I love your dosa and love analogy.
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  28. Sulekha says:

    Love and dosas…love them both 🙂 Interesting how you got them on the same page. I agree with you, be gentle in handling your loved ones.

  29. Thats a lot of profoundness in Dosa making Parul. As yummy and delicious as the Dosa you have made, your take on relationships and people was lovely too. Agree don’t cross barriers… And yes it takes a lot of patience.

  30. I will be thinking of your words each time I spread out my dosa batter on the pan, Parul!
    What a beautiful post and analogy!

  31. Soumya says:

    Oh wow, so beautifully put! I’ll never be able to look at a dosa the same way now 🙂

    Space is one of the most important things in a relationship. Look closely at the dosa and you’ll see the breathing spaces it is, no matter how close knit it looks 😉 . That’s how a relationship should be too.

    One of your best posts this, my dear. <3
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  32. Mabel Kwong says:

    Love how you entwined dosa with the idea of love. So clever and creative. And so much truth to the comparison too. Love can be here one day, and the next day it might be gone because of a choice we made. Agree that we have to work hard at it and let each other be their own person. Love takes time to blossom. It could take one year. Two years, or more. Keeping that love alive is probably the more challenging thing 🙂

  33. This needs a wider audience… definitely sharing. Who would not love a post that links love and food? 😀
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  34. So true. Love is a fine balance between giving the other roots and wings.
    Mmmm…dosas….
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  35. So true. Love is a fine balance between giving the other roots and wings.

  36. How lovely! A dosa spreading on the girder can be equated with the feelings of love, never thought so 😀 Love has to be irrigated with optimum amount of oil and water, I meant care and space.
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  37. Rajlakshmi says:

    Now that’s a perfect analogy from a foodie to all other foodies 🙂 beautiful thought Paul. Let’s keep this in mind this Valentine’s Day 🙂
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  38. This is such a beautiful post, Parul. One that makes sense and one that you have so effortlessly weaved. You are right, love is a lot like this. We should have the space to be ourselves when in a relationship, the comfort to just be and that’s more important than gifts. Just loved this post 🙂

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