Of love and rolling a dosa
The pan was hot and the oil had warmed up well. As I poured the dosa batter on the pan and started to roll it, within minutes one side was light brown and cooked and the other had just begun to fluff up and started to take the heat in.
Love is like rolling a dosa. While people are not perfect, a good and healthy relationship needs the right amount of heat and efforts to make it work. You need to let it flow on its own and not try to shape it the way you want. Love is freedom and it means having patience with each other. Like a perfect dosa needs time to cook, a healthy relationship needs time to bloom. Without the right amount of understanding and space, no relationship can thrive.
If I had heated the oil too much or spread out the batter more than necessary, the dosa would have turned out burnt and would not have been soft. Love is the same. Push people beyond limits and what you will get is a shallow connection. Demand too much and you will burn bridges.
Let your loved one breathe. Share responsibilities and make each other laugh. It’s important to feel free in love. You may book a table and buy a bunch of red roses on Valentine’s Day but do you value what your partner needs. Do you respect them? A gift is good but do you have the gift of each other’s company?